Whether you are hosting a dinner party or attending a wedding, it is always important that you look your best. When we look good, we tend to feel good, which means we are more likely to enjoy and carry ourselves with confidence. Likewise, knowing that we can do it all and fitting the part requires us to put our best self forward and care for every aspect of our well-being.

Isabelle Mathers is stunning in this lace dress for an outdoor cocktail event in the garden. Here is an inexpensive dupe to get the look for less. Of course, the bolder you are the more this look is for you. An outfit can be romantic while still remaining classy depending on the approach.

While the everyday setting can become monotonous when it comes to your approach toward dress wear, events are the ideal venue to express your personal sense of style and communicate your attention to how you present yourself in this type of setting.

With special attention to detail, your attire could speak a myriad of positive things about you and ensures that you are making a good first impression on those around you. With that in mind, here are some top tips that you can use to look your best at all times so that when that special event comes up, you are already walking in your light.

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Commit to a haircare routine

Ensure you look amazing at your next big event, and every day in between, by developing an effective hair care routine. Haircare is all about daily care and maintenance, so if your hair is currently in bad condition, you can not expect to turn it around overnight. Depending on your hair type, an effective hair care routine will be dependent on your individual needs. This requires you to learn what works for you and what does not.

With an effective haircare routine, your hair could consistently look voluminous and shiny, as opposed to dry or greasy. A simple upgrade to your haircare routine can have immediate positive results. For example, try using cold water when washing your hair. This is because “cold water for hair ensures your scalp remains cleaner for longer as it closes the pores, making it less vulnerable to grease, oil, and dirt.” 

Use specialist products for your hair-washing days, especially if you have dyed it. For example, if you have hopped onto the gray or silver trend, you should do research to find out what the best shampoo for gray hair is in order to maintain its color and shine. 

Avoiding heat and over-washing is also a very simple, yet effective way to allow your hair to regain its strength. By allowing your hair to rest, the texture of your hair will begin to repair, so avoid impulsively chopping your locks off in fear of losing hope that you can get your hair ready come event season.

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Get serious about skincare

While we may tend to save the facemasks for a girls’ night in, developing an effective skincare routine is another great way to ensure you look great at your next event. This will help you maintain a natural, healthy glow. As the event draws near, pay more attention to your skincare and schedule face mask sessions leading up to the event. Do your first face mask a few days before the event and another the morning of. This will allow you to see the best results over a few days as opposed to the night before or the day of the event. 

You do not need to become a skincare pro or purchase hundreds of expensive products to develop an effective skincare routine. In fact, it is often better to keep your routine simple, especially if you have sensitive skin. Each morning and evening, it is traditionally recommended to use a combination of the following: 

• Cleanser

• Toner

• Face wash

• Moisturiser 

• SPF

While this routine can be further simplified, it should be carried out daily. Your facial skin is not the only skin to pay attention to. Our intimate areas need love, too. Using natural, clean, and effective products will make you feel your best and protect those areas from common skin ailments. Moisturizing these areas are very important to overall skin health, and should be done daily.

Isabelle Mathers’ romantic sense of style appears effortless, soft, and has a sweet sophistication all at the same time. Expressing your individual style is what sets you apart, so enjoy the opportunity to shine.

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Find outfits you feel comfortable in

Of course, your outfit is one of the most important factors to consider when trying to look your best for an event. However, while you should ensure your outfit matches the event's dress code, your main priority here should be finding something you feel comfortable in. If you are wearing clothes that you do not feel your best in, your reservations will show in the way in which you carry yourself, so this is the best approach to set when searching for your outfit.

You will want to avoid anything that you may spend your time trying to cover up or readjust throughout the event as opposed to simply letting the outfit speak for itself. How many of us have had that dreadful dress that was just so itchy? The one we had to toss out after one use. *raises hand*

Do not be afraid to forgo trends or popular items for clothes that feel more within your personal style and that can be used comfortably and regularly even post-event. This will not only ensure you feel comfortable and confident, but it also means you will look and feel great in your pictures.

04

Discover your personal style

Finding a unique way to express your style is an art and should be met with excitement as you get in tune with yourself and learn things about your tastes and preferences. Doing so will give you a chance to express yourself more freely, which will once again enable you to feel more and more confident.

We know that what we wear does not define us, but it is the way in which we interact with each other that sets the tone and outlet for creativity and expression. In this way, how we respond to each other is largely based on appearances, especially in social settings.

Begin experimenting with different styles and see how you feel when you wear certain pieces. For example, you could follow influencers with a similar style on Instagram, paying close attention to the brands they work with or where they shop.

Over time, you may even just discover your talents and you could even begin to set up your own fashion account, which could provide you with an opportunity to earn money as you grow your Instagram followers.

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get Thrifty

Many people choose to buy a brand-new outfit before a big event, especially if there will be many people in attendance or a level of prestige to the venue or event. While this is completely understandable, there are alternatives to unnecessarily overspending on an outfit that you will wear for one night out of the year.

For example, you can find everything you want, from dresses to shoes, at your local second-hand store. There are always amazing finds there, and if you really have a good eye, you will not be disappointed with the art of thrifting. You can also now easily shop for previously loved clothes online using apps like Poshmark and What Not. Saving on designer brands has exploded in recent years, and there are no signs of it slowing.

With the increasing pressure toward sustainable fashion, there are so many inexpensive ways to access fashion at a fraction of the cost. Avoiding fast fashion and adopting sustainable shopping practices will also enable you to build your event wardrobe quickly. By becoming more sustainable in your daily life, avoiding fast fashion to get access to new clothes, and opting for quality-made, previously loved clothing, fashion subscription services, and rentals you can develop your personal style without necessarily having to make a costly commitment.

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Learn how to enhance your features

Becoming a professional makeup artist to “wow” your friends and family at an event is an unreasonable expectation—you only simply need to understand what makeup techniques and products flatter your face or features. Naturally, in this way, you ensure you always look your best because you are not putting together a look that you just found on Youtube the night before. After all, that could turn disastrous if the technique is not achieved properly. Rather, stick to what works for you every day and what makes you feel confident no matter the cause or setting.

If you prefer a more natural-looking day-to-day look, enhancing your facial features for an event would not require much from you since you have diligently relied on daily skincare routines. You could simply wear a nice cream blush and lip cream and call it a night. For more definition, you choosing eyeshadow shades that complement your natural eye color will allow them to pop. For example, “green eyeshadows will pop on brown eyes with reddish undertones because red and greens are opposites.” 

If you are not entirely sure where to get started when it comes to skincare or makeup, consider finding a friend who is experienced or signing up for a few classes to learn the fundamentals. Online tutorials are always plentiful and can cut the learning curve down so that you can quickly develop your own techniques.

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Love the skin you are in

Confidence comes from within, and when it radiates from the inside out, it is undeniable and magnetic regardless of what you look like or what you are wearing. As such, one of the easiest ways to ensure you look your best for an exciting event is to work on building your confidence and self-acceptance.

In essence, learn to stop comparing yourself to others. After all, you do not want to spend the whole night wondering whether another guest looks better than you or if their outfit is nicer than yours—this will do nothing to change anything. Instead, celebrate the fact that you both look amazing. Learning to fight back against comparison will increase your confidence in your body and your appearance, showing you just how beautiful you are. 

You should also work on reframing the way you think about yourself or your body. Each time you catch yourself thinking negatively about your appearance, take a step back and repeat three or four positive things you like about yourself out loud. While this may seem a little strange, the more you get used to complimenting yourself, the easier it will become to realize the truth in your words.

Takeaways

In closing, there are many steps you can follow in order to ensure you look your best—not just at formal events or cocktail parties, but every single day. By setting aside some time in your usual routine to deviate to self-care, developing a beauty regimen that allows your natural beauty to shine, nourishing yourself with nutritious foods, and staying active and fit, you will feel and look your best no matter the occasion.

@hellolovelyliving It is never too late to learn and start a new journey toward self improvement.

If your desire is to have a balanced life, there are three foundational elements of your life that must be maintained. Think of yourself as a pyramid divided into thirds. The bottom third is your body, the middle is your relationship with yourself, and the top is your relationship with others. Say the top third of your pyramid is very fulfilling—you have amazing friends and family, and you are generally happy with your interpersonal life. However, the bottom two-thirds, which is your relationship with yourself and your body, you have neglected and you are feeling completely overwhelmed and depressed about the state it is in.

One thing is certain, the foundation of your pyramid should be the strongest; It is what keeps your structure strong and able to withstand pressure from things you can not control, which is the top two-thirds of your pyramid. When your body is weak, you find yourself succumbing to outside stresses more easily and will find that over time, your body can not physically support itself optimally, affecting both your physical and mental health.

Incorporating regular physical activity into your weekly routine will greatly enhance all areas of your life and will help you become stronger not only physically, but most importantly, mentally. Your life will improve tremendously once you start making a habit to stay active and exercise regularly. Here are a few reasons why working out will make your life better:

01

You Become More Physically equipped 

Are you ready for higher energy levels throughout the day? Awkward and tedious tasks will no longer be as awkward as you will become more physically equipped to handle them. Being more in tune with your body and developing an intimate understanding of how to optimally care for it will make you feel a lot better about yourself overall. You will not only become physically adept at certain activities and exercises, but you will also be able to handle simple, day-to-day tasks with more ease. You will be more energized, and you will be more inclined to get certain things done that perhaps you would not have been interested in completing before. Whether it is the case of moving around furniture or starting a significant project in the garden, you will have the ability to get it done with less strain, and you will enjoy the physical aspect of these types of challenges.

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Your Confidence Levels Rise

Confidence plays a huge role in overall happiness. If you are more physically adept and are constantly on the move, you will be a more confident human being. You will feel as though you can and want to do more things in life, which will cause you to seek out more exhilarating and physically demanding experiences. You will seek after and gain constant reward as you find yourself proud of meeting your personal fitness goals and seeing your body develop in ways you did not know were possible.

Many people struggle with the initial motivation to start a fitness plan because they do not know where to start. Start with choosing an environment to be active in that is comfortable for you, whether that be at home, the outdoors, or heading to a gym like Fitness 19 and regularly getting workouts in. Developing a habit of the act of working out will eventually clear the initial mental stress of where the activity will take place.

Over time, the environment will not matter as much as the results that you are after. You will do what you need to do to succeed if that is what your goal is. You will not care who is there or who is watching. Eventually, you will start to feel like you are on top of the world every time you accomplish “gym day” because your confidence grows every day you invest in yourself. Staying consistent with your fitness activities will allow you to see achievable results and will make you feel as though you can conquer anything.

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Your Brain Gets The Stimulation It Needs

As human beings, we all need something that stimulates our brains. We easily adapt to certain habits and comfort zones, so being physically active is a healthy habit that we must implement to develop ourselves for the better. We also enjoy attaching ourselves to certain passions or topics of interest, so why not make our health and fitness a topic of priority? The mixture of physical challenge and mental hurdles combine to create an amazing feeling of accomplishment whenever you work out. Whether you are simply walking or lifting heavy weights, your brain is getting the satisfaction it needs throughout the process.

Consistently starting your day off the right way with the intentional choice to take care of your body is the best decision you could make in a day. To make matters better, if that was the only choice you made for the entire day, you would still be winning even if you failed at everything else that entire day. Keeping your mind strong requires this simple act because the mind and body respond to each other. If your mind can remain strong, then the body follows that path toward complete and overall mental and physical strength and agility.

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You are More Inclined To Eat Healthier And Stay Hydrated  

Because you are becoming a lot fitter and healthier, you will be more inclined to drink enough water. You will also better understand why you need to stay nourished in order to really feel the benefits of your workouts. A lot of it will go to waste if you are not eating the right foods or eating junk food. You will likely get into the habit of eating better foods and keeping yourself energized every single day because everything adds up in the end. You would not want to be compromising your hard work by not paying attention to the most important part of a balanced fitness plan— your nutrition.

Eighty percent of your fitness results will be dependent on what you are eating, so this is the most important area to become disciplined in when you choose to pursue any fitness plan. Achieving results is not only about how much you are doing to build your muscles with exercise, but what you are doing to improve your diet and intake of nutritious foods and supplements. When you have a balance between the two, you will feel motivated even more by your efforts.

Takeaways

You will find that what starts as a desire to learn how to care for your body turns into an extremely positive lifestyle choice. No one is exempt from deserving to live life with optimal health and wellness, but what we were never taught was that it requires much more from us before we begin to see what we are ultimately made of. See, that is the beauty of the entire process.

When you start to focus on different areas of yourself, you begin to see just how resilient and strong you are. If we are not pushing ourselves to our limits, we will not ever experience some of the best rewards in this life. Only you have control over your discipline and your choices. This is one of those choices that will forever change your life, and you will be so grateful you made it.

In a world of increasing detachment, it can be difficult to tell if a person is genuine or not just from first appearances. We are all looking for a partner, friend, or colleague who will be a valuable addition to our life. We want to surround ourselves with people who are pleasant and who show good character traits.

But how do we know if a person is really worth our company and who they say they are?

A good person can be identified by their actions and how they treat others. They will follow through with their word and display characteristics that will build trust over time. They will go out of their way to help you with your needs without expecting anything unequal in return. They will act with integrity, compassion, and respect towards you and others, especially when nobody is looking.

What makes a good person?

There are many signs that show that someone is a good person. For example, they may be kind, generous, honest, and helpful. They may also be open and extremely giving of their time, money, and support to others.

The definition of being a "good person" can differ from one person to the next. There are many different ways to define what it means to be "good". However, there are some common traits that people associate with being "good".

Being kind & being nice: What’s the difference?

Being kind and nice are virtues that are good determiners of a person’s character right off the bat. These are positive indicators that display consideration in any circumstance and in any environment.

What’s the difference between being kind and being nice? Kindness is an act of selflessness that comes from within, while niceness is more of an outward display of charm or decency.

Being kind will make you feel good about yourself because it is an act of giving to others; being nice will make you feel good because it is in your best interest to do so.

Deceptiveness can be rooted-out simply by knowing the difference between a person’s kindness and niceness. A person who is deceptive may show characteristics of a nice demeanor simply to get what they want out of the interaction and for personal gain.

Knowing how to identify when someone is genuinely kind and doing things from a place of selflessness is important in being able to gauge what other character traits will follow.

Manipulation happens all the time when people want you to believe they are a good person so that you will do things in positive response to what they are trying to gain from you.

Oftentimes, this manipulation is subtle, and it may take some time before we start to see a person’s true character unfold. Their actions will start to paint a very different picture.

Setting healthy boundaries

With that being said, a person’s kindness and willingness to be supportive are indicators of a good foundation for building upon your understanding of them.

Now, let’s turn the tables. What if you find yourself in a situation where you are too kind and supportive to those you have still yet to determine value from?

Well, this can be a problem too. Knowing how to be kind and supportive without sacrificing your own needs and desires is very important to your well-being.

One thing to remember is to never be afraid to say “no”. Never say “yes” when you really mean “no”. You might not always be able to say no, and that's okay, however saying it when you genuinely do not agree is the best way to show a person that you have boundaries and limits.

It can be hard to say no, but it's important for people to know what your boundaries and limits are. This is a display of self-care, and you will be able to weed out those who are not willing to respect your needs as well.

Trust takes time. The best way to avoid being deceived or misled by others you are just getting to know is to allow for time and space to learn about them and to allow them to show themselves first before you get involved further. Gather information and let things develop. You may even want to look into doing a search of public records, especially for business dealings.

If you’re just getting to know someone and don’t trust them yet, start with building strong open communication. At a bare minimum, open and solid communication should be the first thing we look for in validating a person’s intent. If they can’t provide for a basic need such as communication at the very beginning, this is a serious red flag.

Allow this to happen prior to you engaging in a more serious personal or professional partnership or relationship that way the substance of your interactions is built on a solid foundation. When someone knows exactly who you are and what you are trying to achieve in your interaction, you will have fewer questions posed later on, and you can expect the exact same from them in return.

Takeaways

Know how to identify the difference between a kind and a nice person, set healthy boundaries, and build upon open communication from the beginning.

Overall, a good person can be defined by five key qualities:

1. The ability to show genuine empathy towards others.

2. The ability to be honest and trustworthy.

3. The ability to act with integrity.

4. The ability to be kind and compassionate.

5. The courage to do what is right at all times.

Confidence spreads like wildfire. It is a trait that all leaders have in common, and it is crucial for your career, your overall quality of life, and ultimate success. Confidence can also be difficult to develop for some, and innate for others. If you often succumb to self-doubt, it can feel like a very painful, uphill battle. However, if you develop this area regularly and practice healthy habits to maintain your confidence, you will attain the confidence you desire. You must work on loving yourself and being happy with who you are. Once you have done that, you have won half the battle, and you can work on believing in your abilities even further. Follow these simple steps to go down this path and be surprised at what a difference it makes in building your confidence.

No. 1

Adopt a health-conscious beauty routine

Developing healthy habits is a fundamental way to feel good about yourself. From your diet to your beauty routine, practicing healthy habits daily will take you further in gaining confidence than any piece of clothing will. Whatever we ingest shows up on the exterior more than we care to admit. If we pay attention to this simple fact, we can avoid many common stresses that have a significant effect on our confidence as a whole. For one, the types of foods we eat play a crucial role in our outer appearance and confidence. In particular, switching to a fruit and vegetable-based diet will provide phenomenal results in your energy levels, and in effect will cause you to be healthier and more prepared to present your best self to the world.

Similarly, improving or changing your diet can help you manage your weight, clear up your skin, address health concerns, and help you feel great on a daily basis. If you wash and moisturize your face twice daily and work on combatting acne or any other skin conditions, you can ease through a more natural beauty routine rather than just relying on makeup to cover up underlying issues. All you need to do is start focusing on perfecting a beauty routine that is naturally healthy for you in the long run. Additionally, simply understanding the importance of proper water intake can make all the difference in our body’s ability to function optimally. So, if you are concerned about your skin and overall health and how that affects your confidence levels, simply drink more water daily.

No.2

Learn Something New Every Day

Learning is a very powerful and empowering activity that we can partake in every single day. To start, read and develop your communication skills and knowledge base, or take classes and improve your social skills. If you do these things regularly, you will find that you have more to offer, and that is what builds confidence over time. Get out there into the world and learn about things first-hand or enjoy a documentary after work. By learning something new every day, you better yourself every day. The result is an empowered feeling over time, and it is a great way to build confidence, effortlessly. Find what you enjoy learning about and make it a natural fit in your daily life. Knowing that you are invaluable with so much to offer the world and others will enable you even further along your confidence-building journey. We like to feel needed and have the persistent desire to feel heard, noticed, and appreciated. Doing the above will provide a way to achieve that in any environment. Challenging your brain daily is also a great way to keep it active and engaged in any and every situation.

No. 3

Be mindful of your appearance

I’m sure you have heard the phrase, “first impressions matter.” Well, this is a very true statement because as human beings, we subconsciously judge appearances all the time. It’s a natural way for us to gather information about a person, place, or thing based on appearances first. In that regard, fashion is a way to express who you are without even speaking. We can be happier with who we are and how we present ourselves if we let our creativity and individuality shine through in the way we present ourselves and maintain our appearance consistently. It might sound vain, but feeling good about how we look is an important part of loving ourselves.

If your current attire does not reflect your genuine sense of style or taste, it may reflect negatively on the way you present yourself to the world. You may not feel as confident when meeting people for the first time or you may not have a cohesive first impression that matches other obvious reflections of yourself. If this is the case, you can apply simple changes. For example, this is especially true if your clothes are too tight or make you feel uncomfortable. Dressing for your body type is the best way to feel good in your clothing, look better, and acquire more overall confidence. Look for clothing that feels comfortable and looks good on you, not just what is trending at the moment. Spend some extra time and effort on identifying common dressing troubles such as the best bras for large busts or finding brands that cater to your particular body shape or type.

No. 4

Travel alone

If you really want to test your confidence and build it at the same time, travel alone. Solo travel, especially if you are a woman, is often seen as dangerous or taboo, but it can actually be one of the best ways to travel the world and cultivate your independence. After all, when you are by yourself, you have more incentive to make friends along the way. You are in charge of your future and your safety, and getting through your trip and enjoying it is one of the most empowering things you can do for your self-development. You are completely in charge of your own decisions, and you must learn to rely on yourself and the decisions you make along the way. This will in turn give you confidence in your own decisions after you finish your adventures, and everyday life will suddenly seem that much easier.

takeaways

There is no right or wrong way to become more confident. In fact, the only thing that matters is that you believe in yourself and know your worth. Each of us has so many reasons to believe in ourselves and to feel empowered because we all possess unique gifts that equip us for our life experiences. Allow yourself to naturally discover the things that make you feel distinct from the rest, then focus on that as the mechanism upon which your confidence is built. Only you know the answer to that. Once you go inside yourself, you will be able to lift whatever hinders you so that you can reveal your true nature and self. You deserve to become the confident, independent person you dream you can be. Look within.